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Bad Manners: What NOT to say or do (Polite English)
Learn English with Rebecca [engVid]

Learn English with Rebecca [engVid]

Published on 5 years ago




Every language is also a culture. Make sure you know the one habit you MUST avoid to succeed in North American and British cultures. I'll also teach you 14 other mistakes in English etiquette and manners, such as what not to ask, when not to speak, and what not to wear to the office. Knowing what NOT to say and do will give you the cultural keys to success in your personal, social, and professional life. Take a quiz on this lesson here: http://www.engvid.com/bad-manners-polite-english/

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Hi, my name is Rebecca from www.engvid.com. In today's lesson, you'll learn how to function effectively in a cross-cultural environment - in North America, in Britain, and so on -, and what you should not do. This is actually one of two videos that I've recorded. The other one is on good manners, and this one is about bad manners. This one is about what you should not do when you're in North America or in England. Okay? So I've divided it between what you should not say and what you should not do. Let's have a look.

So, in terms of speaking: when you're speaking in a group or in a public place, try not to speak in a very loud voice. Don't speak too loudly; keep your volume relative to other people's volume. All right? Listen. Now, again, everything that I'm going to say to you here remember always take it with a pinch of salt. What does this expression mean? Understand that it's not 100% like that, but generally speaking it's like that. Okay?

Next one: in a public situation such as a party, try to avoid controversial subjects. What does that mean? A controversial subject is something where people have strong views such as religion or politics. We try to avoid these subjects, for example: at a social occasion, at a wedding, or a party because if you get into a discussion with someone on these subjects it can become a little bit aggressive, it can become a little bit angry, and perhaps that's not very kind to your host or hostess that are planning a pleasant kind of event. So remember to keep that in mind. Of course, with your own friends or people you know well or people you see often, you do share your views on these subjects and that may be perfectly okay. All right?

Next: we also avoid speaking about money. I know that money is, of course, of great interest to everyone, but we usually do not ask people that we don't know well or acquaintances or people we've just met, we don't ask them questions like: "How much do you make?", "How much do you earn?", "How much did you pay for your house or your car?" or something else. We don't ask that because it's not polite. Okay? Of course, again, with people you know well, you may share that information. And if somebody decides to share that with you, that's fine, but you try to avoid asking it.

Next is not to ask personal questions. What do I mean by personal questions? You don't usually ask people how old they are or how much they weigh or something like that, or how many... If they're married or if they have kids. Now, again, if you're a married person and you have children and you meet another married person and it's clear that he or she has children, it's perfectly fine to talk about how old your children are because it's obvious that you all have children. So I don't mean to never ask them, but if you meet just one person you don't want to start asking them: "Oh, why don't you have children?" or something like that because that's giving advice very early when you barely know somebody and people don't like that kind of advice usually.

Next is avoid talking about yourself because that can sometimes seem like you're boasting. Now, of course, that doesn't mean not to give information about yourself, but not to talk too much about yourself. When you talk too much about yourself then people feel that you're... you just care about yourself. Instead of that, show, tell a little bit about yourself, and then turn the conversation and turn the focus and the attention onto the other person; ask them about themselves. Okay, the next point is not to interrupt people. In many different cultures there're many different rules about this, but in North America generally when one person is speaking we try to wait until they finish speaking and then we say what we want to say. Try not to interrupt while other people are speaking.

Last point here is about speaking when your mouth is full. Don't do it. In other words: don't eat and talk at the same time. Eat - if you're at a dinner -, eat, finish eating, and then speak. Nobody likes to see all that food inside your mouth and neither can we understand you very clearly when you have something in your mouth, so avoid that.



Tonito Zhimo

Tonito Zhimo . 2 weeks ago

Useful...

Jorge Fernández García

Jorge Fernández García . 2 weeks ago

HABLO ESPAÑOL GILIPOLLASSSS

ranju mishra

ranju mishra . 2 weeks ago

Mam I am from india and I love your classes and I loved all rules because I am also kind of people who don't like these activities thank you so much really impressive class👌👍

Sudhanshu Mishra

Sudhanshu Mishra . 3 weeks ago

Very good madam ,I like it

n o t z i

n o t z i . 1 month ago

Getting in the way is also a bad manner especially in public places where people can move in the direction.

Mahalakshmi K

Mahalakshmi K . 1 month ago

Its very useful to myself thank you mam

Juliet Selma

Juliet Selma . 2 months ago

You’re so good 😊 ma’am..thank you for this!!!God bless you more ❤️❤️💐💐🙏🙏

Diego Morales

Diego Morales . 2 months ago

Remember when people followed #2? When people didn't collectivize everyone into "____ supporters," red/blue clans, and race tribes.

Farzana Aslam

Farzana Aslam . 3 months ago

Thank you so much

OC. Heaven

OC. Heaven . 3 months ago

In my country it'd be dangerous not to look at the people in the streets. Here, people usualy is accostumed to look at everyone in the face so they can know if somebody looks dangerous, if they look like robbers for example, that usually happens in the big cities. It's not like it always happens, but the people is cautious.

Rosangkimi PB

Rosangkimi PB . 3 months ago

Excellent thank you so much fir making this video

C Velu

C Velu . 3 months ago

Hi,Rebecca,You are mature and teaching peacefully and amicably from the core of your heart.

Mittee Brown

Mittee Brown . 4 months ago

Thank you for such a nice information but dear this is not about North America, this is all about your family back ground.Please visit other countries and find out their culture.Stay blessed.

Sharowar Alom

Sharowar Alom . 4 months ago

Thanks a lot for this very informative class. I am from Bangladesh. I really liked it.

Dilini Fernando

Dilini Fernando . 5 months ago

Teaching well.💖

PythonZz

PythonZz . 5 months ago

Controling Body odor? Hmm, good manners or comen fucking sense?

PythonZz

PythonZz . 5 months ago

Walk between people? How am I supposed to get through crowds. Subject avoiding? Fuck you. I can say what ever the fuck I want. That's why they are called contraversal topics. Wear cologne? Are you fucking kidding me? You are so overly trained to have good manners. You have lost sight of your past. You now follow mere instructions on life. You distrust me. You have absolutely no personality. Your manners have become you. They take over your life.

Bela Darling - Proud to be transgender

Bela Darling - Proud to be transgender . 5 months ago

I love Ur videos

elena goodness

elena goodness . 5 months ago

great advises!

प्रकाश बाबु

प्रकाश बाबु . 6 months ago

thank you so much for a class .

Maria Makinen

Maria Makinen . 6 months ago

I find this a bit irrelevant since I have experienced n lived in the U.K.

S

S . 6 months ago

Im from europe and live in the middel east today. Often I feel unconfortable to answer to personal questions. Could you make a lesson how to behave and answer in those situations where you want stay polite but keep a confortable distance, please !

fear less

fear less . 6 months ago

mam your teaching style is very easy thanks ma'm

Parbati Bishwokarma

Parbati Bishwokarma . 6 months ago

thanks it's really important to know us

Ana RBLX

Ana RBLX . 7 months ago

*Bad manners makes for bad guests.*

quantumleap

quantumleap . 7 months ago

My people (the Russians) should learn these rules, especially the 4th and the 10th. Thank you so much for this awesome lesson now I know how I will behave when I move to the US!

Fatma Supian

Fatma Supian . 7 months ago

Thank you very much it's can help to us

Helio

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OM SPL live learning

OM SPL live learning . 8 months ago

That was nice knowing mam🤗

Spiderman121 Scooby doo fan

Spiderman121 Scooby doo fan . 9 months ago

Good video you'd be a good teacher

Raúl Peribáñez

Raúl Peribáñez . 9 months ago

Generally speaking, in Spain people tend to speak with loud voice, so when we go to other countries can be difficult for us to low our voice. About the kiss, we usually give two kisses to a woman, but we shake the hand with a man.

Nintendo GD

Nintendo GD . 10 months ago

Haha a very funny lesson, Thanks a lot!

Yeah it’s destiny

Yeah it’s destiny . 10 months ago

I have a loud voice I’m impatient I spit scratch and burp also fart I wear purfume I never shower I’m messy Ugh

david on

david on . 10 months ago

thats internationally bad manners. not only in US.

Marie legan

Marie legan . 12 months ago

Miss Rebecca, you are a very good teacher, I like the way you teach and pronounce because I can understand everything you say, I come from Belgium (It's not an underdeveloped country), in my country we give a kiss to everyone even if we do not know the person. Also no one would be bothered by the smell of garlic, which is not at all well seen in Germany, that's why it's good for me to hear what your say. Thank you very much for your explanations and especially do not let yourself be discouraged by people who take your good advice as a personal attack

Hellsing The Great Teacher

Hellsing The Great Teacher . 12 months ago

Dear Rebecca. I understand you. You have brought up many good points that I will share with my students. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. Cheers!

Melanie Vitovsky

Melanie Vitovsky . 12 months ago

I work with exchange students and all of these points are very valid and helpful. Thank you! Also, much thanks for including perfume/cologne on the list. Our meetings are all fragrance free to protect those with allergies, asthma, and migraines.

neha agarwal

neha agarwal . 1 year ago

Spelling of odour is wrong It's odour not odor

Kåre Mortensen

Kåre Mortensen . 1 year ago

Once one of my colleagues was moving heavy things all by herself. I felt bad, so I politely asked, “Do you need a hand?” That’s one way to ask if she needs help. She looked up angrily and barked at me, “A hand? I have two hands!” I gave a nervous smile, mumbled, “Of course, sorry”, turned away, and kept my mouth shut. Since then I stopped using that expression “need a hand”. We have a Japanese colleague. If anybody asks, “How are you, Dr. Takagi?”, he becomes very uncomfortable with suspicion, and asks back, “Why?” So we have dropped general polite greetings with him. I had some non-English-speaking colleagues, things got more weird/ridiculous with them. They ask me, “How are you?”, I respond, “I am fine. Thank you. How about yourself?” They get very offended. One of them thought, “How about yourself” means “not your damn business”. Another guy thought, it means “What is that to you?”. A woman thought, it means “Go F— yourself”. Politeness is highly overrated.

timur senja

timur senja . 1 year ago

hello. I am Indonesian, nice and clear explanation. Thank you

Yun Zou

Yun Zou . 1 year ago

Thank you, Rebecca. Could I ask one more question please ? Today, I was talking with a lady A. Meanwhile, lady B came and interrupted in the middle of our conversation ( between A and I) I was trying to be polite, responded "Hi" to B. But B kept talking. After interruption, A was waiting for a while, but B kept talking. Then A left. I feel so bad, because I don't know what should I do. So, I'd like to know, what should I do? How do I control this situation ? Am I very rude? Because I really have no idea what should I do. BTW, English is not my first language. I hope A could understanding me....😢 Looking forward ur answer! Thanks a lot !

Good GOD

Good GOD . 1 year ago

Thanks so much Mr Rebecca for your advices remain blessed with your family. I listen to you just for 1 hour and i have learn so much. Thanks

Qz_2018

Qz_2018 . 1 year ago

The world 🌍 is huge and we must learn to overcome cultural barriers and respect other people's culture and traditions! For example, if in your country a kiss on the cheek is a bad manner and somewhere in another country this is normal, etc. 😊

Qz_2018

Qz_2018 . 1 year ago

I think that in “business communication” we can find more information about it (cultural barrier) Thank you miss Rebecca for the videos😊

Qz_2018

Qz_2018 . 1 year ago

in my country «bad manners» are the same, but we can kiss on the cheek when we meet friends, although I dont kiss😅. if I have not seen this person for a long time, I kiss the cheeks😘

Lily ASMR

Lily ASMR . 1 year ago

Great video! One of my New Years Resulutions is to remember my manners. This is a great reminder on the subject! :)

SOORYA M P UME15317

SOORYA M P UME15317 . 1 year ago

Thank you for educating us. N.American please first try to have the habit of being humans, then teach us to be civilized

Lily Darcy

Lily Darcy . 1 year ago

Could you please explain to us the difference between though and although? Thanks

Md Nahidul Islam

Md Nahidul Islam . 1 year ago

Did not like your talk about the point 8. You should not say something offensive about other cultures.

olivier l

olivier l . 1 year ago

I guess, listening this video, what kind of people are targeted...;)



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